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“In 100 pages, with an intriguing bibliography, this is a quick but comprehensive overview of our generation at this moment in the 21st century.  Carter’s telling is at once realistic and optimistic—and her own story is living proof. 

‘Why did I write this book?’ she asks in her prologue, and then answers with a quote from Joan Baez:  ‘Action is the greatest antidote to despair.’ 

Carter never looks at our generation through rosy glasses.  Her even- handed reporting and clear and compassionate writing help me understand the challenges and opportunities we all face.  Thank you.”               – Carrie Tuhy

Find Your Reason to Be Here: The Search For Meaning in Midlife is where I share what I have learned from years of research into the psychological legacy of boomers, where the idea of ‘midlife’ came from, and how boomers can make the most of this unique new stage of emotional development. I feel it is the best I have ever produced.

To learn more about mastering difficult life transitions you might enjoy my book: Midlife Magic: Becoming The Person You Are Inside!   To find a new faith in love try: How to Believe In Love Again.


Find Your Reason Cover smallMy new book: Find Your Reason to Be Here: The Search for Meaning in Midlife  is out! 

This is the research project I have been working on for the past few years!  Here I share essential information for boomers, those anticipating midlife, and the parents of boomers who want to understand their children better. 

Learn what’s normal and to-be-expected, and how to make the MOST of your middle years. This book includes so much new research on what boomers share emotionally, how they compare to their parents, where the idea of “midlife” came from, and the exciting new rite of passage we are experiencing for the first time in human history!

Click here to purchase your own copy,  and please do write a review on Amazon for me!


Just read a great article about what the real problems are as we discuss the future of Social Security and Medicare.

Here’s a quote: “There are legitimate reasons to be worried about entitlement spending.  But the fundamental question is not how much longer the Social Security and Medicare trust funds are going to be solvent.  The question is how much we’re willing to spend to insure that the elderly have affordable access to health care and some financial security.” 

James Surowiecki at the New Yorker says raising the Medicare eligibility age is not the answer:  “…you could extend the life of Medicare indefinitely if you restricted it to people over eighty-five, but that doesn’t mean it’s smart to do so.”  LOL!  And the beat goes on with the dummies in Washington…

I’m 57 and somehow I have made it through my entire life without an app.  In fact, I have never even owned a cellphone as far as that goes…

The other day I overheard a young woman putting down her friend for having a two year old phone.  “I can’t believe you still have that old phone..”  EXCUSE ME???

Am I the only sane one left on this planet who thinks a cellphone is a complete waste of time and money?  PROBABLY!

Every time I check into the possibility of getting one the contract prices and monthly charges have doubled AGAIN.  Data from the Bureau of Labor Statistics’ Consumer Expenditure Survey (CE) shows that cell phone expenditures increased rapidly from 2001 through 2007, with the total cost of owning a cell phone surpassing the cost of residential landline phone services beginning in 2007.

Cell phone providers must be working under the assumption that they will just continue raising prices until the consumer stops paying… but they never do!  Talk about a dysfunctional addiction!

I must say, I appreciate everyday the fact that I never jumped on that gravy train for cell phone service providers!  That is one seriously expensive technology addiction that just about everyone has swallowed hook, line and sinker.

Next time you use your cell phone, think about what else you could do with those thousands of dollars per year you spend on just having a phone.

Here we go again with the disparaging comments about our country…

Thanks for telling us how you really feel, Mitt!

“There are 47% of the people who are dependent upon government, who believe that they are victims, who believe the government has a responsibility to care for them, who believe that they are entitled to health care, to food, to housing, to you-name-it.  That’s an entitlement…”

How presumptuous of us who feel “entitled to health care, to food, and to housing.”  Yes, 60% of us do have jobs but don’t make enough to qualify for paying taxes, 40% are disabled and/or elderly living off their hard earned Social Security checks.  But let’s throw the bums out in the streets, or better yet, kill them off, so we don’t have to support them.

Please tell us,  Mr. Hitler, what else you would like to change about America?

The Republicans keep saying they are against class warfare in the U.S., probably because they know they will lose.  I’m thinking there are a lot more Americans who make less than $250,000 per year than make more.

Not so for generational warfare though!  Check out their new proposal for Medicare reform.  They have proposed a budget which directly pits those 55+ against those under 55, mistakenly assuming that the younger ones won’t notice when they lose Medicare altogether. Now we all know that if Medicare gets trashed after the last one of us turns 55, it will be trashes long before that.

Here we have one of the most successful programs in American history.  Ask the millions who depend on it everyday to survive in retirement.  Even most Republicans take advantage of it and love it!  But their plan is to do a switcheroo and trade it in for a $7,000 per year voucher towards health care costs.

If you happen to live in the real world, you know $7,000 is NOTHING when it comes to real medical expenses today, especially as we age.  After eight decades of perfect health, my Dad required two major surgeries last year, racking up a $200,000 bill easy.

I know we all have to tighten our belts and reform Medicare to some extent, but not on the backs of the younger generation.

Exercise of the brain is as important as exercise of the muscles. As we grow older, it’s important to keep mentally alert. If you don’t use it, you lose it!

Below is a very private way to gauge how your memory  compares to others like you.  Take this test to determine if you’re losing it or not. The spaces below are so you don’t see the answers until you’ve made your answer.

OK now, relax, clear your mind and begin..

1. What do you put in a toaster?

Answer: ‘bread.’ If you said ‘toast’ give up now and do something else.. Try not to hurt yourself.  If you said, bread, go to Question 2.

2.   Say ‘silk’ five times. Now spell ‘silk.’ What do cows drink?

Answer: Cows drink water. If you said ‘milk,’ don’t attempt the next question. Your brain is over- stressed and may even overheat. Content yourself with reading a more appropriate literature such as Auto World. However, if you said ‘water’, proceed to question 3.

3. If a red house is made from red bricks and a blue house is made from blue bricks and a pink house is made from pink bricks and a black house is made from black bricks, what is a green house made from?

Answer: Greenhouses are made from glass.   If you said ‘green bricks,’ why are you still reading these???
If you said ‘glass,’ go on to Question 4.

4.  Without using a  calculator – You are driving a bus from London to Milford Haven in Wales ..   In London , 17 people get on the bus.
In Reading , 6 people get off the bus and 9 people get on.  In  Swindon, 2 people get off and 4 get on.  In Cardiff , 11 people get off and 16 people get on.  In Swansea , 3 people get off and 5 people get on.  In Carmathen, 6 people get off and 3 get on.  You then arrive at Milford Haven.  Without scrolling back to review, how old is the bus driver?

Answer: Oh, for crying out loud!  Don’t you remember your own age?  It was YOU driving the bus!!

If you pass this along to your friends, pray they do better than you!

P.S. 95% of people fail most of these questions…

For as long as I can remember, I’ve been fed the line that aging sucks.   There have even been moments when I believed it, but only when I am not enjoying the rich depth and breadth of a lifetime of memories.

Now I believe aging offers us a grand perspective, but only if we are aware enough to enjoy it.

I have been an avid walker for decades. I love to get out in my neighborhood in the morning and see what’s growing, changing and happening.  I enjoy meeting new people to see how they’re doing.

I can remember when those I met on my long walks were genuinely friendly, especially young people. That was long before “stranger danger” scared the kids out of saying, “Hello, how are you?”  Did you know that if you never again speak to a stranger, you will never make a new friend?

I am also finally old enough to have personally experienced a number of important technological changes.  Television was just getting big when I was small, but there were still only three channels with limited hours, and all in black and white.

I remember life before computers and, of course, cellphones.  Remember FTP and Gophers on the pre-Internet?   When it was new you had to practically be a programmer to use it!   Yes, I know all the mundane tasks computers have helped us with.  After all, I was a librarian for 25 years!  Writing picture perfect card catalog cards was certainly not my cup of tea, but storing vast quantities of information for future access was.  Computers have been perfect for that, but it sure is a lot tougher to go incommunicado these days!

I also remember what being a friend used to mean.  No, it wasn’t about how many “friends” you have on Facebook.   We may feel more “connected” these days, but are we really?   Are your friends those virtual people you interact with online everyday, or those who care enough to come by and spend time with you when you need some genuine human contact and concern?

I find it fascinating how many movies and shows there are about life in the 1950′s, 60′s, 70′s and 80′s today.   I was watching an old episode of “Life on Mars” the other day.   It is a TV show set in 1973, and I thought, if I hadn’t been born in the mid-50s I wouldn’t know so much about so many things that we Baby Boomers take for granted.

So the next time you’re feeling bad about how old you are, think again!   There is a whole world of history, information, and knowledge just floating around in your head.   You have wisdom only decades of experience can bring.   BE SURE AND USE IT TO YOUR BEST ADVANTAGE!

Now that you are finally an elder in your own tribe, use your wisdom to mentor those younger than yourself, especially those who need reassurances that aging is a GOOD thing!